Beauty: The
Innate Accessory . . . a Curse or a Blessing?
-Amy Grafstrom
Upon wandering
through the labyrinth of the internet searching for
some sort of idea to focus on, I found myself
searching several combinations of strong
women, fairytale women, but no idea
inspiring results came to my screen. It was
then when I entered my embarrassingly dull words
ugly women in society that I received a
quite hilarious pairing of photos, one titled
Democrat featuring some of the most
unflattering pictures ever taken of various women in
politics and the media, and the other titled
Republican with an array of godlike
beauties from the same fields who couldnt be
more proud of their looks. Upon comparing these
ideas of beauty and political power to the situations
in which the unusual looking females within
Catherynne M. Valentes novel The
Orphans Tales - In the Night Garden experienced,
I found a peculiar sort of connection. I started to
wonder, could it ever be possible for a woman to
confidently possess both the ability to be strong,
independent, and assertive, yet also portray herself
as the beautiful sex symbol that society might label
her out to be? Can women who are exceptionally
beautiful be accepted by men as mature intelligent
individuals without subjecting themselves to the
expected outcome of becoming a mere accessory of
beauty in a mans life?
In
Catherynne M. Valentes inspiring novel, such a
topic seems to be challenged and explored, through
the many stories of some of the nastiest and most
oddly deformed women one can imagine. These
women who find themselves as outcasts in their own
lands, resort to seeking out new lands, new
adventures, and some even fulfill prophesies in the
land of the Twelve Towers. Each of these women,
though they allow themselves to fall subject to the
judgments and discrimination others place on them,
find a higher strength in themselves, and look beyond
their appearance and in a way use it to their
advantage to take on the world. The storyteller
herself, the girl in the garden whose eyelids contain
the written words of over a dozen stories of far off
lands finds herself shunned into a life of solitude
and shame, yet she still retains a world of wonder
and mystery. She gives a boy a chance to see
other places, rescues him from his own world of
loneliness and lack of love. She then reveals
the lives of Snow, Sigrid, along with many others,
but seems to focus on how their deformities and
oddities have affected their lives not only for the
worse, but gave them the opportunity to become
something so much more than ordinary; they became
oddly strong women who never seemed to desire for
settling for the man providing security and comfort
off in the distant horizon.
The
first girl who sparked my interest was a girl named
Snow, also known as the Pale Girl. She was born
in the land of Ajanabh, a glittering city that
was warm and lay in the comfortable seas of the
south (Valente). Subsequent to moving to
Muireann, the land of icy slopes and a winter that
never seemed to end, her hair suddenly awoke to a
shocking tone of white the morning after her
parents burial. She seemed to wear her
newly troubled and empty life in the form of her
somewhat empty looks, her pale green eyes, ghostly
white pigment, blindingly white hair, chewed skin on
the back of her hands, and long features lacking any
feminine wooing potential. It was almost as if
she became the epitome of plain and boring,
unmarked and unremarkable (Valente 237)
features. As soon as her parents died, she
began a life close to that of a beggar, living off
whatever limited things she had, putting all her
earnings towards future fish hooks and meals for the
night (Valente 238). Snow was not desired by
men, she was not beautiful in any way, so she held a
life of her own in quiet solitude, and it was only
when she met the company of another woman, Sigrid the
net weaver, that she found a friend. This
friend revealed to her, rather bluntly, No one
says much about you youve no prospects
at all, and that means youll be on the docks
till you freeze to the boards (Valente 238).
Although hurtful, it was the sad truth, because in
their world, if you dont appear to the liking
of the next strapping young lad, you will be left in
whatever environment you started out in, which for
Snow was the docks. In a way this is to say
that if a womans looks didnt please a man,
she could find no opportunity from men to further
their lives, they would have to rely on no one but
themselves. Sigrid them tells Snow,
Thicken up and well get along fine
(Valente 251), as a way of telling her to either get
used to what she has in her life and everything will
work out fine.
Sigrid
on the other hand, a woman bursting with personal
strength and assertiveness, reflects on her past and
tells Snow of how her life once was, the life of a
maiden. The main skill of a maiden is to
stand very still and look beautiful . . . I was
nothing. I did nothing. Being a maiden,
you see, is not quite the same as being alive.
It is more like being a statue (Valente 440).
Sigrid is a rare case within Valentes novel
because she has lived two lives of complete opposites
to one another, a life of beauty and a sense of being
desired, and her current life of working as a net
weaver with the effects of aging and weight gain,
showing little to no remains of the beautiful maiden
she once was. But what cannot be ignored is
Sigrids own sense of pride. She had
experienced what life was like as a symbol of beauty,
existing for nothing more than to attract a man, thus
losing her in the process. She was unable to
find herself, unable to truly know herself, and only
knew the things about herself that were taught to her
through the way men saw her. Once she got out
of that closed off state of mind, she was able to get
to know herself, and became aware of all the other
possibilities that life had waiting for her.
Growing up
as a young girl in Southern California, I grew to
find myself living in a bizarre land where looks
meant everything. Like the world in
Valentes novel, ones status was primarily
originated from her looks, and if you didnt
appeal to the standards of beauty the boys implied on,
you were denied many social opportunities and
experiences that the majority of your peers went
through. The environment conditioned me in a
way that if I was not exhibiting beauty at all times,
I was disregarded and felt like I wasnt valued
or thought of as being worthy in the eyes of my peers.
During those awkward years I found myself with the
opportunity to decide how I would spend my free time.
Whether it was with trying new forms of dance and
perfecting them or just enjoying whatever it was that
I decided was right for me, I gained a sense of
confidence, self respect, and worthiness that I never
would have received from doing the cool
thing. I think in a way this is how Snow
and Sigrid felt, they found through the process of
social separation, they found it was okay to just go
for what they wanted out of life. No matter
what they chose to discover or challenge them with,
it couldnt possibly put them any further back
of the normality scale that was so prominent in their
lives.
While
observing the photos of the ugly and
pretty women, I found myself curious
about what some of these women were about, what they
did for society and for themselves. So who are
some of these women? On the top left of the
Republican image is Bo Derek, sex symbol of the late
seventies and early eighties, star of the Tarzan
movies and the famed hit 10. But what
did this woman do besides show business, what did she
do in the eyes of society? According to
StarPulse.com, Bo married John Derek in 1971, and he
was said literally molded her into a highly
desirable superstar. Would she have had
the ability to become such a superstar if it
werent for the image that this man decided she
should become? Would she have been as
successful of a woman without the creation that a man
made her out to be? According to an article
from the Washington Post, Derek is mentioned as being
an avid supporter of Bush. In efforts to pass a
bill among the white house to prevent the
slaughtering of horses, Derek is described as A
pro-Bush Republican, she is aware that as a national
sex symbol she receives special treatment. Even
enemies of the bill want their pictures taken with
her (Weeks). In the frame of sight that
society places on a woman like Bo, her identity as an
aspiring actress with talent and strength is removed,
and her physical appearance and presence in the Man
of Powers life is heightened. Through the
field of vision that her husband molded her into
becoming, she lost her own sense of direction and let
go of the reins to become an icon of beauty for the
remaining women to admire and men to adore. (See
figure 1).
Pretty Women in
Society

Republican
representatives and celebrities Bo Derek, Janine
Turner, Laura Bush, Peggy Noonan, Laura Ingra ham,
Michelle Milking, Ann Coulter, Monica Crowley, and
Debit Schussed representing the beautiful women.
Fig. 1.
Mark A. Rose, photograph, 30 May 2007:
On the other
hand, an unknown face among the democrats to me was
one of Madeline Albright. Upon researching her,
I found that she was the first female secretary of
the state and created quite a comfortable seat in the
white house for herself. According to CNN.com,
Not only did she charm foreign leaders during
her recent whirlwind tour of Europe and Asia, she
impressed much of the world's press with her
toughness and confidence. Albright is
clearly a woman of direct confidence and power among
the mostly male-dominated world of politics. To
voice her opinion so strongly yet calmly seems to
create a wave of shock and impressiveness among both
men and women who hear her words. Yet the media
insists on capturing her as an ugly and harsh woman,
through her stern looks commonly seen on her face,
her main goals and purposes are at times overpowered
in the way that the media enjoys portraying her to be.
Does this womans power scare men enough that
they can do nothing to her but shut her down due to
her physical appearance? Do women fear her as
well, or do they admire her and look up to her
courageous and dominant life style? Would her
life be the same if she had been born with say the
physical traits of Pamela Anderson? Can a woman
create a life of her own with elements of power,
independence, and drive without having to have all
her negative physical elements overpower her every
move? (see Fig. 2).
Ugly Women in
Society

Democratic
representatives and celebrities Hillary Clinton,
Teresa Kerry, Madeleine Albright, Janet Reno, Andrew
Working, Nancy Pelosi, and Susan Ostrich posing as
the ugly women in society.
The binary
that is this concept of ugly versus beautiful is one
that women struggle with everyday of their lives.
Living as a woman myself, I know just as well as
every other woman that we are our own worst critics,
and that we feel this quiet and constant need to
compete with one another with out looks and advances
in society. But will women ever be able to free
themselves as a gender from this idea that we have to
be at the top of our game at all times? Can
women shake the binary and find a place in-between,
where we can accept one another as being capable and
powerful yet also paying respects to the fact that we
might also be beautiful? Women must begin to
learn to see themselves as able to possessing both of
those things before we can be accepted as so in
mens eyes. It is a shared problem that
will take women like Madeline Albright, and Bo Derek
to speak up without fear for what might be said or
done to them, that women must allow themselves the
chance to get to know the person inside before we
fall victim to the masculine gaze that the media
enforces on us. If we could only live with
blinders to the idea of beauty and see that our own
ability to make a life of our own is far more
important than worrying about the external elements
of being alive.
When
considering the concepts in Valentes novel, it
might be said that when the women in the book lose
their ability to be beautiful in anothers eyes
or perhaps never even have it to begin with, so they
gain the ability to conquer things they never thought
possible. Without the weight of beauty, they
begin to see themselves in a way they might never
have, they see themselves as being capable and worthy
human beings. To live a life free of the
constant worries of whether a mans view of them
will waver with each coming day, they become able to
see themselves as beautiful, they see themselves as
the pure humans that they are, capable of anything
they set out to do. In the history of
fairytales and storytelling, one might never have
seen both beauty and leadership going hand in hand
within a female character; the concept of such a
thing was somewhat of a social taboo. But
perhaps it is within women themselves that the power
to have both those traits will come about and will be
accepted by men and women alike. Women are
their own worst enemies, and it is only when we begin
to accept one another that we will find true social
acceptance, confidence, beauty, and power.
Works Cited
Rose, Mark A.
Democratic Women vs. Republican Women.
http://markarose.com/images/democrat_women.jpg
Staats,
Craig. Madeleine Albright.
http://www.cnn.com/ALLPOLITICS/1997/gen/resources/players/albright/\.
May 29, 2007.
Star Pulse.com. Bo
Derek Biography. http://www.starpulse.com/Actresses/Derek,_Bo/. May 29,
2007.
Valente,
Catherynne M. The Orphans Tales
In the Night Garden. New York: Bantam Dell,
2006.
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Linton. Washington Post. Bo Derek's
Washington Roundup.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp- dyn/content/article/2006/10/14/AR2006101400893.html.
October 15, 2006